If you’ve ever been in a long distance relationship you know that is not easy. Honestly, it is the furthest thing from easy. Good news is that there are some actions that you and your partner can take to make it a little bit easier.
For those of you that don’t know, I am currently in a long distance relationship that started out as living three hours away to now living more than a three hour flight (on a good day) away. I’m not going to lie to you – most days are good, but when there are bad days…they’re really bad. We’ve been strong enough to combat the bad days and focus on the good.
One way to fight off the bad days are to have date nights. Date night? How is that even possible when you’re thousands of miles apart?
Im here to show you that it is possible, but only if you’re willing to put in the effort. Thankfully we live in a technology driven world and have this thing called FaceTime.
Date Night Ideas
These are the things that work for the relationship that I’m in and they may work for you as well! Always remember that you can tweak, add or take away aspects for each date that makes it just right for your relationship.
Dinner dates (or any meal date) has always been something Anthony and I love doing together. We share a love for food on a whole different level and really like to try new things. Being that we’re now so far apart we had to get creative on how we can still eat together.
We’ve done planned and impromptu dinner dates and love doing both. Some weeks we’ll plan to eat together on a Thursday, and both get Chipotle so it is like we’re actually getting dinner together. Other nights we may be on our way home from work and call the other person and ask to eat dinner together that night. We’ll make our own food and simply just eat together.
To keep it exciting some days without warning we’ll Venmo each other $10 with the caption of what restaurant to go to and do that for dinner as well.
Next to dinner dates, Netflix dates are one of our favorite date nights as this is the one we do most often. It is something we can do together right before bed (just like if we were physically together). We’ve watched movies and shows, but always make sure it is one that neither of us have seen before.
Typically it takes a lot of negotiation on what to watch, but we always work together to pick a show. Right now we’re currently watching Lucifer and love that it keeps us wanting more – enticing us to want to keep watching it every night.
If there’s one thing you should know about Anthony and I it is that we love coffee more than we love food…and possibly even the air we breathe. For me it is the general love of coffee, and for Anthony it is the love of both coffee and the atmosphere of a coffee shop.
Our goal is to have a coffee date every Sunday. Some weeks we have to skip due to other events going on in our lives, but when we’re able to make the date we talk for at least an hour and I love every moment of it. These dates are hands down my favorite as they’re typically early in the morning and well, we met in a coffee shop (so I might be a bit biased).
Another thing that is big in our lives is fitness. Between the two of us we both workout at least once, if not twice a day. When the timing is right we’ll FaceTime the other person and workout together.
Whether we’re simply on a walk or getting some movement in at home we make the effort to include the other person. A fun twist is to find new workouts to try together.
Book Club Dates
This is a date idea that we haven’t gotten around to doing yet, but I think it would be awesome to do. Search online and each pick a few books that interest you. Decide together on which book to start with and read a few chapters on your own. Pick a day to call each other and talk about the book, or you can even read each chapter together.
One thing that long distance relationships take is effort, effort and more effort. You have to be willing to put in the time to make it work. Having date nights are one way to stay connected and show up for each other. Don’t be afraid to think outside the box when it comes to date nights. The goal is to find what works for your relationship.
Ultimately at the end of the day be grateful to have each other and appreciate the efforts of your other half.